Society and what it means to us all
We live in an interesting time and place. No longer are we constricted to certain social constraints and rules, but we are allowed to live openly and freely. Yet, we are limited in this life. As a lesbian, and am banned from marrying the person I want to spend my life with.. simply because we are two females.
Complaining much? Yes, of course. There is something I’d like to call heterosexual privilege. It’s a privilege because anyone can have these rights simply by conforming to a so-called social norm. This norm is to be a female and a male. They can marry, they can have children, and they can lie, cheat, steal and divorce in a matter of hours, days years or decades.
I don’t begrudge people in love or who think they are in love, but I do begrudge how people are allowed to make a mockery of the institution, and yet they can lead the way to ban others from marriage. This ban is something they have never experienced.
Imagine feeling lonely and self-hatred all because you wake up one day and realize your heart skips a beat at the wrong person. The wrong gender. It is not something you plan; it is not something you wish to happen. Who wants to be different? Who wants to become something that casts them out of the social graces of society?
Well the society that individual grew up in is not a good society. This society was put in place and created rules for governing. However, this society never bended to accept difference. The sad thing is that society that could have been something good ended up being hated and reviled, but those who were outcast were driven to the exact polar opposite life of the so-called Society.
It is very sad that we must be at polar opposites of a spectrum. We could have created a wonderful life in this Society, but it chose to leave us out. Prevent us from allowing our hearts and minds to flourish. We were relegated to the far ends of the darkness. We were allowed to feel self-hatred and self-pity for being different.
Some did not make the journey so well. Some did not fair so well. The pain of living became greater than the fear of dying, so they took that path. They took their own life to live in an eternity of self-hatred and unfulfillment. It is sad.. very sad.
But this is the reality of life. Yes, some do find happiness in spite of intolerance. And for that it is a wonderful thing. But we must change Society from within.
What Society doesn’t know is that we are the doctors, lawyers, teachers, students, parents, children, family, and friends who live every day in the midst of Society. We are embraced by Society, but once we “come out” the embrace is gone. Gone forever.
Let us build bridges and not let Society die because people have left. Embrace diversity in order to make a greater Society that includes people of all descriptions. That is most important as we move forward in the 21st century. If we do not embrace this, then we will die.
Forever to spend eternity in among those who could not live the life of an outcast or hidden in Society. In the memory of those who have come and gone and lived and love, let us move forward in their honor.